Morally bankruptOne cannot claim to be morally right when he is a willing partner of an immoral act.There was no question that Tim was an unfaithful husband. A loving husband does not frequent dating sites, period. Even if we assume that Tim was a morally right person, I am positively sure that he's not looking for company in these dating sites to join him in reciting the holy rosary with him; rather he's looking for sex.
In all of his trips to the Philippines, it's all about moneychangers. In other words, either he has no credit card or he did not use them. Why? He does not want his wife to trace anything about this trip. Remember the absolute secrecy?
In Day 3, when Mayen told him that she wanted to sleep with him, he could have told her "No" and wait until they were a married couple before engaging in an immoral sexual act.
In Day 16, when Mayen's mother did not complain about the fact that they were sleeping in one bed, he could have said "No"; instead, he was very excited to "make babies".
All these of these instances does not define a morally right person.
No intent to bring Mayen to UKIn the United Kingdom, similar to the United States, when you petition you fiancée, you need to prove your financial capability to support your fiancée financially. You must marry her within six (6) months of arrival to the UK. You need to submit bank statements, employment certificate, including documents where you currently live – a house or an apartment. All of these, to prove that you are financially able to support your fiancée. None of these were going to happen.
1st he was still married and divorcing his current wife puts his equity in the house in jeopardy – the equity money that he was holding unto, dearly.
Divorce is expensive and I don't think he could even afford to go through the divorce proceedings. Worst, he could lose the equity of his house in the divorce, an event that he's very scared at. He insinuated that in his journal.
If he can't even afford to buy a round-trip ticket to Manila, how is he able to support a wife?
Financially bankruptTim doesn't have money, period. That's why he is scared like hell in even shelling out the smallest penny ever and even complaining for the amount of money he shelled out to buy Mayen's slippers. Remember the "posh" slippers that Mayen bought that were paid for by him? How "posh" are these slippers? I was with my boylet in Baguio. Malen was my witness. Jacket I bought? Levis. Go figure how much that was. I'm sure, it was a lot more expensive that these "posh" slippers. Malen was ready to punch the hell out of me when she found out about it. I ran as fast as I could! That's why I'm back in the US! My point? Dang! Its just slippers!
Money involved in this scam? Php85k. How much was this? (By the way: He never paid this amount! No money in the amount of Php85k was shelled out by him!) Let me show you:
- In Philippine Pesos Php85,000.00
- In US Dollars @ Php41 $ 2,073.17
- In British Pounds £1,036.81
- In Euro €1,294.81
Like what Cat said in the comments she left, "A true love is unconditional. Money does not matter". If you are truly in love with a person, these amounts of money – which are very small (for a westerner) – means nothing in a relationship. Tim, as I have said in my conclusion, was madly in love. Madly. Not truly. Go figure.
UntrustworthyA person who doesn't know how to trust another person cannot be trusted as well. "It's all about trust. It's not money. It's all about trust. It's not money. It's all about trust. It's not money." That what Tim keeps saying.
We hear you. It's all about trust. And trust is the major personal characteristic that is missing from Tim. And yes, everything in this trip is about money. The lack of it. And your trust. That lack of it.
Irresponsibility
Again, as Cat left in her comments, this person is irresponsible for not taking responsibility of the ectopic pregnancy. He enjoyed the moments of "making babies" but disowns the responsibility when things go wrong.
Tim, I doubt if you've got friendsIf Tim has friends, his friends will tell him that what he did was a terrible, terrible mistake. Him putting up a website to shame the Philippines and the entire Filipino people is absolutely wrong and you cannot correct a mistake by another mistake. Any reasonable person knows that. If Tim have friends, they will be the first to convince him that there was no scam and that he needs to tear down these hateful website.
What's the motive?The genesis of this story is as simple as running away from his responsibility. Put bluntly, this person is a coward. He was extricating himself from his awful irresponsibility by blaming everybody.
TEAR DOWN THAT WEBSITE OF HATRED!!!Tim,I could see you spending hours and hours on my website (See bottom thumb file). If you are truly one reasonable man who is God-fearing, then you will tear down that website which is full of hate against Filipinos, against the Philippines and against the innocent people of Tierra Maria Estates. Life is beautiful to consider an entire basket as full of rotten eggs when you only met one bad egg.
We, the Filipinos, have one of the most beautiful cultures in the world and we are the happiest people on earth. The irony? We have a lot of dysfunctionalities in life and our country is far from perfect but we are able to weave through these with dignity, respect to other people and still smile.
Look Tim! We don't even have rice now! But we're still a bunch of happy people! Life is short. Enjoy it because I'm telling you, life is so beautiful and sowing hatred on the internet will keep you unhappy for the rest of your life. Understand that what you sow - you reap. Is this your dream? To be a miserable person until you die?
P.S. If you are just reading this now, this is a series. Please see below and start with Moral righteousness, Filipina Image, Part 1 & Part 2, then continue on with Was there a scam, Part 1 & Part 2.
